My boys are teaching me – among a lot of things – one important thing: being open.
Being open for new experiences, new people, new places, new tastes, new colors, new feelings.
For example, I’ve never dreamt of going fishing, cleaning fishes and cooking them. And when you open our fridge right now, you find living mealworms. Thanks, Big Boy.
Or I didn’t have any experience in my childhood with playing with legos. But it feels satisfying lying on the floor of the living-room and putting together a VW bus of at least 10’000 pieces.
Or I wasn’t the typical game player when I was younger. But now I’m spending hours by playing Uno or Rummikub with Little Boy.
Being open isn’t an easy thing to do. But it gives me much more in return. And there will be more experiences in the future I’ve never dreamt of. I’m sure and open.
It was in my first class. I was seven. I had to do those additions: 6+7=12 or 13? 5+8=24 or 23 or 22? I was looking at my fingers, counting, recounting and I was so nervous about these figures. They were turning around in my head.
I walked to my teacher, an elderly woman, a Mademoiselle, certainly not married, with heavy glasses and a strong voice. She sat at a table, two steps above the floor. She took my sheet of calculations. Her red pencil was like a weapon. She destroyed all my nice additions – with a red dash.
I stepped back to my pupil desk – with a red face.
It has been a real fight – my figures and me. My father, a professor of mathematics, was desperate.
My mother even cried when we left after the talk with my teacher. How could I do this? Her daughter was so stupid. It was her first big crisis as a parent.
Wednesday afternoon, when my friends used to play on the street, I sat with my father repeating additions. As I couldn’t concentrate well, he closed the rolling shutters and we sat under the artificial light.
“Your daughter won’t be able to go to a high school later”, my teacher said to my father.
My father believed her and not in me.
Little boy is a very sunny, caring and clever kid, and his self-confidence is big. I often tell him how great he is.
For example, during his violin lesson he is talking without fear telling his teacher why it has been difficult to rehearse, why it has been easy to play this way and why he is excited about this piece and what he would like to play and what he doesn’t like and so on and so on.
It isn’t easy to cope with a child like this. His violin teacher as well as one of his schoolteachers is very fond of him and his attitude. His second schoolteacher can’t cope with him.
Little boy told me once: “I’ve got the impression that Mrs. B. doesn’t like me. Do you think I am wrong?” Unfortunately, I had to confirm his presumption because as I know Mrs. B. I am convinced that in her childhood she couldn’t be the child she wanted to be and she didn’t get the necessary acknowledgement by her parents.
Seeing little boy with all his enthusiasm and positive radiation she must feel jealous of his entire positive attitude to life and people.
I feel sorry for my boy as well as for his teacher.
Fortunately, my two boys are rather bright.
Even too bright when I want them to spend less time on their computers or smartphones and when I want to lock them for a certain time.
They are hiding their machines telling me totally innocently they haven’t seen them for a while.
But it is great to have smart kids. They will be teaching me a lot: how to use all the future machines which will be developed in the future.
And one other important thing: they are teaching me to laugh; at myself and at all things I use to take too seriously.
Thank you, boys!